Mom prepared to face charges for abandoning ‘dangerous’ son

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WILLIAMSBURG, Va. -- A mother in Virginia says she is prepared to face charges for abandoning her 12-year-old son.

“I am his mother and I do love him, but he's dangerous,” Kimberlyn Williams  told WTKR, explaining that she has the safety of her two younger children to think of. She says she has been hit, bit and kicked, and that her son has threatened to stab children at school.

Williams' son is now at Riverside Behavioral Health Center in Hampton. He was put there after Williams called police last week because of what she says she witnessed between her son and 4-year-old daughter.

“When I went in, I found him exposing himself to her and trying to coerce her to touch him,” Williams said.

Williams says that was the last straw after years of violent and inappropriate behavior, and years of trying to get him the help he needs.

“It's not a case of us not trying to get him help,” she says. “This is not an isolated incident. It’s been a gauntlet of doctors and medications and diagnoses.”

Her son is set to be released Thursday, but Williams does not want to bring him home. If she doesn't get him, she told WTKR that she will face criminal charges or child abandonment.

Williams says Child Protective Services told her if she refuses to take him, her son would be placed in a 24-hour supervision residential facility — something she’s wanted all along. She says it would take police arresting her to get her wish.

“I want something to get done,” Williams says. “I don't want it to be you take this one and you risk your other children's health and safety or you go to jail. There has to be a better way.”

Neither James City County Police nor CPS will comment.

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25 comments

    • Carla

      I totally agree with you Bess. These politicians are playing games with immigration to get more votes for themselves despite the cost to Americans. They are despicable. This family needs help with this child for the safety of the family, the boy and the rest of society when these kids grow up and haven’t had help. Why isn’t our oh, so compassionate government worrying about children and families like this instead of giving away our money to people who have broken our laws.

  • Priscilla

    He is ur son take care of him and keep going to Doctors to get him the help he needs just cause he has some issues doesn’t give you the rite to abandon him u ARE HIS MOTHER so act like it and give him the attention he needs not saying to take attention from other children just pay a lil more on ur son

    • Pat

      It sounds like she is caring for him, AND her other children. At least she is being responsible and trying to get him the help he needs. He’s dangerous!I don’t blame her for protecting her other children. Some parents “cover” for disturbing behavior and they child ends up being a psychopath…oh wait, that was an episode on criminal minds. Still, could happen.

      • Priscilla

        Ok abandonING ur child cause he has issues…Shut the front door…she had him she needs to care for him he is only 4 I can already see what type a parent u are abandoning ur child if he had issues…deal with it

      • ChicagoCommonSense

        Priscilla…for one, the boy is 12, not 4. Reading comprehension is not your strong point. Also, the kid needs to be institutionalized for a while and given the help he needs. You’re just another nut job with no compassion.

    • Lily

      *your *doctors *needs. *right *you *little *should be TO not ON *your

      Honestly, people who cannot spell and type correctly should not be giving advice.
      If this woman feels uncomfortable with this boy in her home she has the right to take action as she sees fit.

    • Marlena Morris

      How well can she care for him if she is constantly worried that he will hurt her or her other children when u have a violent child and no help what are u supposed to do keep endangering urself and others then when he seriously hurts someone all blame will be put on her just because he is her child doesn’t mean that her and her other children have to suffer if he doesn’t get help he could be another serial killer in the making how bout u take care of him give her the help that she has been asking for

  • nenamatahari

    =( This child DOES need long term care at a structured facility. The other children deserve to grow up in a safe place. The other kids will need therapy for trauma. I feel awful for this family. =(

  • Ellie quinn

    Is he autistic? He sounds like he has ASD and ADHD, he should be in a special school with people who can help him with one on one coping skills for his behaviour, but removal from the home could make him worse. Saying that I wouldn’t want that type of behaviour in front of my other children either so I feel for this woman. Get a new doctor n second n third opinions if needs be… The older they get undiagnosed the less likely they are to learn the coping skills… Undiagnosed ASD children often end up in prison as Adults…. Google Professor Micheal Fitzgerald, of Trinity College Ireland. He has free down load books on the condition. Along with books to buy on the criminality of this condition. I hope he gets the help he needs. Good luck.

    • Diana Kaye

      How do you get anything from this article that sounds like he could be autistic? I have an autistic son and I know many families with autistic children and they don’t expose themselves to siblings or try to molest them. What it sounds like is that he is probably a sociopath… Which is a huge difference from being autistic. If he was autistic, most probably he would’ve already been diagnosed and been getting the help he needs. This child needs some serious psychological help and this family needs to feel safe. The mother is doing the right thing.

  • Lesann100

    This mother has a responsibilty to all the members of her family and to others out side the family for her son’s uncontrolled mental health illness. She is at her last straw and is fearful for the safety of her other children. Seems the only way she sees to protect them is to abandon him, accept the criminal charges in order to place him in a residential facility. You cannot take a person/kid like this home…next thing you he stabs his sibling to death, rapes one of them or attacks someone else…. maybe another Sandy Hook… It is not her fault that with the present system…the only way she can protect others from him and get him the massive care he needs is by doing this way. Laws need to be changed in order to address these dangerous mentally ill kids/people in a more secure way….

    • Marie

      So true — how many times does someone go violent and it is revealed they have a history of violence and either the system offered no help, or the family tried to hide the fact. Things need to change so kids like this get help so that they can live happy lives, and so others are not put at risk.

  • Dharmon

    I’m going to say a quick prayer for the family, that he gets the help he needs and she’s not penalized for the lengths she had to go to get him that help. Amen

  • Lisa Gallagher

    I feel this Mother’s pain! Had to do this with one of my daughters when she was 16 (now 22yrs old). CPS has NO clue how to protect children from their Siblings, it’s like they *have* to blame/accuse/vilify a parent in order to do their friggen job…protect children! She;s got a hard few months ahead, but in the end, her Family will be the better & her Son will get the help he needs.
    Wish there were a way of letting her know she’s not alone & that someone understands…… :(

  • nick

    Is this the poor mama warrior who was writing that “my family my village” blog which was featured on This American Life?

    Either way, this is a no win situation. Screw our mental health system.

  • Stacey

    Dear Ms. Williams, I understand. It is criminal what we have to go through to help our children, just brutal. I understand that you want the best for your son and your other children. I am sending you the strength that you need to make it through each day. You are not alone, I understand.

  • Iam

    Help can’t help if the person isn’t willing to help. The services, therapy, counseling, and/or behavioral health consultations can’t work if the family doesn’t do their part. All she talks about is the services and the doctors but what about her what has she done? My own son has behavior challenges because he lived in a Domeestic Violent home and seen more and experienced more then he needed. As an adult and the mother I choose to walk away. With that he is seven and dealing with some struggles in school with straight A’s, I am working with the shool the therapist and MYSELF changing how I do thjngs in the home and ways in which to speak to him and show him. I’m doing the work and my child’s future is looking more positive!! It takes the whole family to be on board for the services to work and in court she’ll probably need to address that part? If all she wants is to get ride of him can you imagine her being like that all those years he was attending “doctors and therapist” as she said. Just saying!

    • Cinn

      Umm, it sounds like this kids issues are out of her hands, and it’s not something she’s equipped to deal with. Serious psychological issues take more than hugs from mom and dad to fix. She’s doing her part by trying to find someone who can treat him while keeping the rest of the family safe as well as other children he may come into contact with. she doesn’t want to ‘just get rid of him.” By not picking him up is the only way that he’ll get sent to the facility he needs to go to. She’s willing to go to jail to get her son the help he needs, and if that’s not a mothers love…

    • luvmyfamlee

      What you are “just sayin'” is that you find it so easy to be judgmental of a person and situation you have no real facts about — how dare you assume she and her family have done nothing for him. The fact that she mentions all these doctors is clear she has taken him to several and not received the help he needs to ensure he does not harm himself or anyone else. Shame on you for acting so high and mighty when you are not being physically assaulted by someone and for not seeing your older child trying to coerce a younger child to engage in sexual acts.

      Do you get much oxygen on your high horse?

  • Alicia thrift

    I completely know where she is coming from, I am in the same situation and I live in Illinois, my son acts the same way. He has tried stabbing me,the phsycologist, and the neighbors,the police have been called out to my home half a dozen times because of his violent behaviors, I also am trying to get my son an icg grant from the state to get him into a residential facility but its a gruling process and the lady told me that he would probably not get approved because the government has cut the funding for kids with mental health issues. My other children live with family members because he has attacked them and threatened to kill them. My son is only 8 yrs old and I have been dealing with this for almost 3 years. Something has to be done. This is disgusting and I have been doing research on this and other parents had to face the same situation, choosing between there kids if your child needs severe mental help,the state will not help you, you would have to give up your parental rights and then dcfs or cps would pay for residential treatment but then you would have to face charges on abandonment.I would love to talk to this woman and let her know she is not alone and join her in getting our children help they need.

  • Truth

    The boy needs to be castrated. I don’t care how old he is. His sister will be scarred for life now and at least if he was castrated it would solve one problem.

  • Mel

    If he’s dis-attached (I don’t know what it’s called these days) then the entire family needs help. Not just the destructive son. “Kids Who Kill:Children without a conscience” is a book that describes this well. It’s heartbreaking but sometimes, people are broken from the beginning. I feel for this family and won’t condemn the mother if this is the case.